Growth Rituals

Last night, I was having a conversation with one of my very close friends. While we were on the topic, I told him that I don't feel insecure about myself anymore. So then, in awe, he asked,  When was the last time you felt insecure about yourself? And,  What were the factors that made you insecure? I replied:  I don't remember. It must have been a very long time ago. "You're a very confident lady," he said. Saying that I don't remember anything about the factors that made me insecure was a lie because I do remember. However, I chose and still choose not to remember them.  Now, you may ask, how can you pretend to not remember something when you still do? I know sounds very tricky right. Let me just give you a very practical and easy example. So, do you know the temptation of wanting to eat junks when you're on a hardcore diet? It's the same exact feeling. You struggle to resist the temptation but still somehow for the sake of the hardcore diet and e

"Never give up. No matter how hard it gets, just stay strong and never give up on life." I've been hearing this sentence from my family and the people around me ever since I was born. As a child, I never understood the meaning of it so it didn't really matter. But, growing up, when I slowly started to understand life, the hardships, and the commitment to grow in life, I finally grasped the meaning of never giving up.  I was determined that I will never give up on life. But, despite that, I stood weak in front of my own determination. No matter how much I tried, somehow I was always ruled out by my emotions rather than my will and determination. It's funny to think of just how easily I gave up at times when I felt defeated or when I saw no ray of hope along my way. So, I used to think that the whole idea of never giving up on life is a scam. It's not possible like not at all. But again, I was proven wrong. I mean, I used to see and meet people who were so v

When I first started this blog, I was really excited. My excitement had literally no limits because starting a blog was one of my dreams. So, as soon as I posted my first article, I sent out the link to my friends and everyone that I knew. With excitement and passion, I told them about my blog and requested them to give a look. But, little did I know, I was excited just to feel worthless at the end. What I mean is all those friends and other people whom I sent out the link read my text but didn't care to reply. More than half of those people didn't even view my article. Now, Was I expecting something from them? Of course, I was. I wasn't necessarily expecting a positive comment on my article, but I was merely hoping for people to give me constructive feedback and to encourage me to continue working hard. But, to not get any reply from more than half of those people made me feel utterly sad and heartbroken. All sorts of thoughts like, "Am I not good eno

Have you ever been in an argument with a friend, or a loved one, or a family member? Has that confrontation led to a broken relationship? If YES: Did you ever try to reconcile? Maybe you did. But it still didn't work out. Why? Because sometimes letting go of a relationship is much easier than letting go of your pride. Isn't it? No, that's not true. Come on Nams,  how can you expect me to go and try to reconcile with a person who did me dirty, who hurt me? Come to think of it, Ikr, it makes sense and it's completely understandable. But here's the thing that most of us including myself failed to understand. Whenever you get into an argument with someone, this is what happens. You either end up getting hurt or you end up hurting the other person. If you get hurt then Oh my god, it's a big deal.  But, you hurt the other one, then it means that you were just doing the right thing but the other person is too sensitive to handle it. Eh' What I m

Every new year, new month, and a new week,  you pledge and set yourself a goal: "Read more books." But: You struggle to achieve your goals.  You easily get bored and distracted.  Reading feels like a chore to you and you would rather do something else. So, if you are keenly interested to answer your questions like,  "How can I make reading, not a chore, and instead enjoy the book?  "How to make reading a regular habit?" then, this post is for you.  Okay, let's dive in! "Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going." - Jim Ryun Firstly, As the quote suggests, if you want to develop a reading habit then the first thing that you wanna do is to motivate yourself to read. And, to motivate yourself, you have to know the factors that motivate you.  Confused? Okay, let me simplify it for you. Just stay still, think through, and answer this question.  "Why is it tha

"Does reading ever feel like a chore to you?" "Do you always feel sleepy and distracted while reading?" "Would you rather spend your time doing something else like unnecessarily scrolling through your phone ?" Well, If you said YES, then, you might wanna reconsider.   Because: You are really missing out on a lot of incredible benefits that might help you to succeed in life. Now, I know that there are hundreds and thousands of posts and articles on the web claiming that reading will make you successful and that it will change your life. I also know that you are thinking, this is again one of those vague articles on reading. But, No. The benefits that I am about to list down are something that I experienced myself ever since I started reading.  So, if you are ready, Shall we get into the talking? 1. Improves Vocabulary I have a lot of friends who read books. When I used to text them or even just chat with

One fine Saturday afternoon, I was just scrolling over my social media feed, and then suddenly a thought occurred to me. It was definitely a thought but it felt more like a challenge. The inner me was telling me, actually challenging me, "Okay Nams, How about you delete all your social media accounts for some days?" And then it went on to say, "I bet you cannot do it. You cannot live without Social media after all." And, I know this may sound really vague and you may be thinking, "Oh, c'mon! There must be something, at least some reasons that could have triggered you to think or challenge yourself like that." Now, I won't lie. Of course, there was. Firstly, I came across many blogs and YouTube videos where people used to say that, living without social media completely changed their life and now they feel happier and that all of us should try it. So, I really wanted to try it myself and just see if it would make me happy. Second